As Dr. Pacik and Janet Pack encouraged above, please continue to be active in the Forum and post about any topic at all. Anxiety accompanies vaginismus and it helps so, so very much to be able to openly talk on this Forum and connect to other women who either have or have had vaginismus. There are many who have delayed treatment due to this underlying anxiety. I did and also filled my life with so many other things as I found it very difficult to face head on. At the time, I told no one except my then boyfriend/now husband and the few providers we visited. Now, by being able to openly (albeit anonymously) discuss vaginismus and the fear and anxiety that accompany it, treatment can and often does happen and there is support every step of the way! :):):)