Say Something!

On a recent episode of HGTV’s Fixer To Fabulous, Dave Marrs  playfully tells his wife, Jenny “your butt looks good in those jeans.” She smiles and thanks him for the compliment. After what seems like an eternal silence, Dave says “you can also tell me my butt looks good in my jeans, you know!”  While …

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The Secret Is Out

“In a study by the Melpomene Institute for Women’s Health Research, they found that 52% of girls with a poor body image almost always compare their appearance to others.”  I recently read that Victoria’s Secret is saying goodbye to its “Angels” and will be rebranding. It’s high time we rebrand what is “sexy”. At Maze …

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You Can Make The First Move

The saying that “a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step” obviously means you can’t finish something unless you start it! Holding on to the familiar, even though it’s not necessarily good for us, is a behavior pattern many of us manifest. Getting started toward change is hard. Fear of the unknown …

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Low Desire Affects 1 out of 3 Women

At Maze Women’s Health, we treat women with the following sexual wellness concerns: low desire, low arousal, difficulty with orgasm, and pain. Often, there is some overlap and these conditions are nuanced and multi-factorial. I want to focus on “low desire” which affects one out of three women ( I’m  not talking about HSDD- hypo …

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Sex Naturally…

Selena Gomez has a song called “Naturally.” It has a catchy chorus: “You are the thunder and I am the lightning… Everything comes naturally. It comes naturally when you’re with me. Everything comes naturally, it comes naturally baby.” Ahh, this is so ideal, but is it for real?  These days, there are many products labeled …

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DOES IT HAVE TO BE ALL OR NOTHING ?

The human brain is inclined toward all or nothing thinking. It’s easier to have every decision be binary: True or False, A or B, Yes or No, Do or Don’t. Can there be anything in between? We are not robots, even though having to grapple with complex decisions makes life infinitely more challenging and confusing. …

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Check-in Time is Now

We all have that friend who is the “Hello, how am I?” type, the one who speaks incessantly about themselves, while most of us fall into the “Hello, how are you?” category. While this level of self-absorption may be extreme and annoying to the listener, ironically there are benefits to constantly checking in and having …

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Erotically Speaking

According to Wikipedia, Erotica is defined as “any literary and artistic work that deals substantively with subject matter that is erotically stimulating or sexually arousing but is not pornographic.” I feel the need to share this definition because I think that many people believe that erotica is synonymous with pornography. I have read a lot …

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It’s Not All In Your Head, It’s In Your Brain! (Literally)

Testosterone Testosterone, the hormone of desire, has mistakenly been called “the male hormone”. Women’s ovaries and adrenal glands make lots of testosterone, we just have a lot less of it than men. Testosterone is the fuel that gets “the brain’s sexual engine” revving. When there’s a sufficient amount of testosterone, it accelerates the hypothalamus, activating …

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Boys and Girls…And Sex

“It’s 10pm. Do You Know Where Your Children Are?” This was a 20-year running public service message on TV airing before the local news. I took this line at face value – check that your kids are home at night. Looking deeper, we need to check on where our kids are physically, but also emotionally, …

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