Not Tonight Dear, I’ve Got A Headache

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When there’s pain with sex, anything that whispers sex can make us women cringe. It can negatively impact our openness to being touched, inhibit our desire and arousal, and erode our ability to experience sexual pleasure. Some conditions leading to painful sex include: vaginismus, vulvodynia, infection, stiff joints, scar tissue from a procedure after giving …

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The Bible of Sex

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Year after year, decade after decade, when someone asks me what my favorite book on sex is, I answer easily: The Guide To Getting It On by Paul Joannides. It’s the bible of sex, I tell people. It really has everything you will ever need to know about sex. As the years have gone by …

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Being Dress-Coded

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Slut-shaming. The phenomenon of girls and women being policed, judged, and denigrated because of their actual or presumed sexuality. Dress-coded. The experience of a student in middle or high school being reprimanded or punished because she is wearing clothing in violation of her school’s dress code policy. Most often, girls are dress-coded for wearing clothing …

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Just Not Sorry!

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I dream of creating an app and was tickled when I recently came across the “Just Not Sorry” one. It is free and underlines any words which undermine an email so that people send more effective messages without using the  “Sorry” word when an apology isn’t called for. This app is especially meaningful to me because women …

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