Slow sex in Manhattan.

The cultivation of sexual mindfulness. One rainy Friday afternoon in mid-summer, I traveled uptown to speak with Nicole Daedone, a former professor of semantics who now devotes herself full-time to teaching what must be one of the world’s most curious mindfulness techniques. At Daedone’s OneTaste Urban Retreat Center in San Francisco, and at workshops she …

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“Come As You Are.”

I am really enjoying the book, Come As You Are, by Emily Nagoski. She is a sex educator, teacher and author. She definitely comes from the educator perspective as opposed to a therapeutic perspective which I find interesting. She spends the first part of the book explaining women’s anatomy in depth and encouraging women to …

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Perv: part one.

I highly recommend the book Perv by Jesse Bering, The Sexual Deviant in All of Us. Bering includes many personal stories of growing up gay in America. He also explains and explores how one’s sexual interests are often formed and how each person’s sexual proclivities are, “as unique as their fingerprints.” I think this is …

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Go get your freak on.

There is a lot of hype surrounding the release of 50 Shades of Grey and BDSM.  Here is some food for thought from the mouth of Esther Perel, therapist and best-selling author of Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence. Perel says, “I do believe that the emphasis on egalitarian and respectful sex — purged of any expressions …

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