Women with un-treated vaginismus wonder if it is possible for them to get pregnant if they are unable to have intercourse. If they do get pregnant, they then wonder if natural childbirth will cure their pre-existing vaginismus by stretching the vaginal opening. The truth is that some women with primary vaginismus have been able to conceive …
Continue ReadingLearning to fantasize: go where your brain takes you.
I spend a lot of time with patients talking about fantasizing. For many women it’s not something they do naturally. It’s something that they have to learn. I’ve come to believe that fantasizing is a skill like many others. While some people take to it more naturally than others, everyone is capable of doing it …
Continue ReadingHow many women use vibrators?
“More than half of 2,056 women, aged 18 to 60, used a vibrator either during masturbation or intercourse, says Debby Herbenick, PhD, MPH, associate director of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University, Bloomington, who led the survey.” If more than half of all women use vibrators, why is there still such a …
Continue ReadingHow wet is too wet?
Every once in a while we have a patient who says their partner is concerned because her vagina feels too wet or too loose. They tell us that the partners are unhappy because they don’t “feel” them and complain that their penis doesn’t seem to get enough traction in their vagina. Admittedly, we are always …
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