Last week, while teaching a basic HIV prevention class to a group of 8th graders it came to question time and a hand immediately went up from the back of the class, stretched as high as possible. I expected one of the usual questions: “Is it better to use 2 condoms? Where does HIV come …
Continue ReadingPutting Pleasure into Sex Education
My younger patients, twenty and under, are often confused and seem a little uncomfortable when I ask them about their “Desire” for sex. Their answers include: “fine,” or “ok.” I will then try and make them more comfortable and normalize the idea that sexual desire is a normal and healthy part of life. Many women …
Continue ReadingIs Porn Really the Way You Want Your Kids to Find Out About Sex?
Someone smart once said to me that “learning about sex from porn is pretty much the same as learning to drive by watching The Fast and The Furious.” There just isn’t that much overlap between real sex between real people and porn. Although, to be honest, more real people are posting their own porn and …
Continue ReadingTalking to your kids about sex: A hilarious monologue.
Sometimes I think we would all benefit from having more conversations about sex with our partners. When parents describe how difficult a time they have talking to the kids about sex it feels as though a big part of the problem is actually never having developed the messages they want to give. They think they …
Continue ReadingTalking to kids about sex: really?
I loved this blog post! I think it illustrates yet again the pitfalls around talking to kids about sex. Too little information? Not great. Too much information? Also not great. But when push comes to shove, I’d err towards too much information. And this interaction illustrates it beautifully. When there’s too much information, or when …
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