You Don’t Always Have to Aim for the Outfield! For a lot of people, sex is linear. There’s a beginning, a middle and an end. The end, for many, comes in the form of an orgasm. And orgasms are pretty awesome, so it’s understandable that most humans are goal-oriented when it comes to sex and …
Continue ReadingIntimacy Shouldn’t Hurt
Intercourse should not hurt. I’m always surprised at how many of my patients have been suffering with painful intercourse of some kind for years. But I’m also so glad they have finally decided to seek treatment. There are many reasons why a woman might be suffering from painful intercourse. For example, lack of lubrication, vaginal …
Continue ReadingIntimacy on TV vs. Real Life
Ultimately, we must ask ourselves how much reality do we want in our fantasy life and how much fantasy do we want in our real lives?
Continue ReadingDid We Just Have Sex?
“I did not have sex with that woman!” This was the proclamation solemnly intoned by the actor portraying President Bill Clinton in the current TV series, Impeachment. In a subsequent episode, he is testifying at a deposition where he dissects, parses, frames, and reframes the word “sex” as well as what actually constitutes an act …
Continue ReadingVibe Resentment
Nope, not talking about buyer’s remorse. I’m talking about what I hear from some women when I ask if they use a vibrator. These conversations go a little something like this: “Well, I mean, I have one, but I don’t like it/I hate it/I don’t want anything to do with it”. “Why – what do …
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