As I’ve written about before, sex in the media isn’t always the most accurate depiction of what sex and sexuality look like in real life. This frustrates me, because for a lot of people, fictional depictions of sex (which are usually not very realistic) are often the only ways people are learning about sex and …
Continue ReadingDOES IT HAVE TO BE ALL OR NOTHING ?
The human brain is inclined toward all or nothing thinking. It’s easier to have every decision be binary: True or False, A or B, Yes or No, Do or Don’t. Can there be anything in between? We are not robots, even though having to grapple with complex decisions makes life infinitely more challenging and confusing. …
Continue ReadingVibrators and Vaginismus
Besides starting with a V, most people would probably say that vibrators and vaginismus really have nothing to do with each other. But I’m here to tell you otherwise. Usually when we think of vibrators, we think of the models that go inside a vagina and, as a result, we don’t usually think of them …
Continue ReadingDilation Station
Vaginismus is defined as the involuntary spasm or contraction of the muscles that surround the vagina. For women with this chronic condition, any kind of vaginal penetration can be painful – especially intercourse. The key to treatment of vaginismus is what is known as “dilation.” This refers to the introduction of a series of graduated …
Continue ReadingVaginismus and the Single Girl
Vaginismus is a condition where the pelvic floor muscles surrounding the vagina involuntarily spasm. This makes penetration of any kind painful, difficult or seemingly impossible. There tends to be a fear component as well. Searching for the reason you have vaginismus is usually pointless. What’s not pointless is getting treatment because it’s very treatable. It …
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