There is a lot of hype surrounding the release of 50 Shades of Grey and BDSM. Here is some food for thought from the mouth of Esther Perel, therapist and best-selling author of Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence. Perel says, “I do believe that the emphasis on egalitarian and respectful sex — purged of any expressions …Continue Reading
On talking to your (adult) kids about sex.
So here’s one to file under “great communication between mother and adult son.” A patient told us the other day that she had downloaded Fifty Shades of Grey to her kindle and really enjoyed reading it. Then she started laughing and said that when she downloaded the book, it hadn’t really occurred to her that …Continue Reading
An ode to being aroused.
The other day a patient who was coming from very far away on the train said to us, “I was going to read 50 Shades of Grey on the way down here, but then I figured I might get turned on and couldn’t do anything about it.” Hmmmm…It occurred to me that many of my …Continue Reading
The funny side of “50 Shades of Grey.”
I must admit that the popularity of 50 Shades of Grey has us scratching our heads a bit. It’s not that we don’t think the sex scenes are hot. We do. But at our last staff meeting we were discussing the fact that there is so much good and fun erotic literature for women available, …Continue Reading
Mass erotic choice as a social organizer — from “Beatlemania” to “Fifty Shades of Grey.”
The questions never change. Working as a sex therapist, I have more than a passing interest in what the culture happens to be serving up about eros. Part of it is simply curiosity about what my clients are reading. But the greater part involves a search for conceptual tools with which to understand the erotic …Continue Reading