Now that I have your attention, let me explain. I know that at first glance this seems like the opposite of good advice, but I’m here with the hot take that to have better sex you need to get rid of foreplay. Now, to clarify, I don’t think we should be getting rid of the …
Continue ReadingForeplay: What is it?
It seems like everyone knows what foreplay is, right? Or wrong? A quick internet search of the term Foreplay brought me to numerous articles in Men’s magazines about “why women want it” or “how to give good foreplay.” Is it possible some men aren’t familiar with the concept of foreplay, or maybe just don’t know …
Continue ReadingMass erotic choice as a social organizer — from “Beatlemania” to “Fifty Shades of Grey.”
The questions never change. Working as a sex therapist, I have more than a passing interest in what the culture happens to be serving up about eros. Part of it is simply curiosity about what my clients are reading. But the greater part involves a search for conceptual tools with which to understand the erotic …
Continue ReadingDr. Stephen Snyder writes on “simmering.”
Here is a wonderful introduction to the idea of “simmering,” slowly meandering around the periphery of arousal as a path to “just desserts” at a different time. Enjoy this beautifully rendered piece by Dr. Snyder: A train in motion On the B train, one hot summer Sunday afternoon. I’m bringing my children and a few …
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