In a recent article by Fisher and Alexander, the researchers posit that the differences between the sexes (in terms of sexual beliefs and practices) are really differences in perception rather than in actuality. The differences exist primarily in terms of “ gender norms” that society has created rather than in actual differences. The authors state …
Continue ReadingSex and the vibrator movie.
I admit it. I have been waiting all my life (okay, maybe just the last 10 years) for someone to make a quality film about the incredibly interesting history of vibrators. Really. I’m not kidding. And finally, someone is doing it. (Well, I can’t actually vouch that it’s quality, but it is a real film). …
Continue ReadingSeeing vaginismus everywhere.
My husband claims I see vaginismus everywhere. Okay. Maybe he’s right. Maybe I do…it kills me. When I see a woman who is totally avoidant of relationships I suspect she is fearful of penetration. When I see a young girl fearful of tampons, I suspect she is panicked at the idea of putting something inside. …
Continue ReadingA good day at our center.
Someone once asked me what makes a good day at our center. Today is one of those days. Today I got an email with a copy of a baby picture from a patient who struggled for 2 years with vaginismus. She is fine, having great sex and has a beautiful little baby girl to prove …
Continue ReadingHow long is too long: the average time for intercourse.
Okay ladies (and the men who may be looking over their shoulder.) The average time for intercourse is 3-5 minutes. So if your partner is thrusting inside of you for 25 minutes and your vagina hurts or gets sore, there is nothing wrong with your vagina. There is something wrong with your timing! Now…lets respond …
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