A female patient just told me the following story. She thought her husband of 15 years was having an affair. He hadn’t been acting suspiciously or working late. He just was less demonstrative, less loving and seemed way less interested in sex. They had always enjoyed a fun sex life. He usually initiated sex but …
Continue ReadingDifferent roads.
I am often struck by the varying and disparate ways in which we solve problems. I am fascinated by the variety of routes people take on their way to a solution. I saw a long time patient today whose situation provided such a great example of this concept. She is a 45 year old woman …
Continue ReadingLibido flip-flop.
This entry was written recently by a patient at MCFS following six months of treatment for low desire. Her previous entry, written after her second appointment last October, was posted on April 5th. Last night I kissed my husband’s ear and he did not move. He wasn’t in the mood and I was! For some …
Continue ReadingWhy I’m not as crazy as I thought.
The following is a blog entry written by a patient at MCFS. Later this week we will post another entry by the same patient, reporting on her progress. This was written in October 2009. For about 14 years now I have been told constantly that things are in my head. Stomach cramps — must be stress, acne — must …
Continue Reading“My husband wants to have sex everyday,” and other popular myths…
To be filed under the “I wish I had a nickel every time a patient said this to me.” Women with low libidos always think their husbands want to have sex every day. When I am doing an intake with a woman who is having sex (because she feels obligated) say, once every 3 weeks, …
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