I am often struck by the varying and disparate ways in which we solve problems. I am fascinated by the variety of routes people take on their way to a solution. I saw a long time patient today whose situation provided such a great example of this concept. She is a 45 year old woman …
Continue ReadingLibido flip-flop.
This entry was written recently by a patient at MCFS following six months of treatment for low desire. Her previous entry, written after her second appointment last October, was posted on April 5th. Last night I kissed my husband’s ear and he did not move. He wasn’t in the mood and I was! For some …
Continue ReadingWhy I’m not as crazy as I thought.
The following is a blog entry written by a patient at MCFS. Later this week we will post another entry by the same patient, reporting on her progress. This was written in October 2009. For about 14 years now I have been told constantly that things are in my head. Stomach cramps — must be stress, acne — must …
Continue Reading“My husband wants to have sex everyday,” and other popular myths…
To be filed under the “I wish I had a nickel every time a patient said this to me.” Women with low libidos always think their husbands want to have sex every day. When I am doing an intake with a woman who is having sex (because she feels obligated) say, once every 3 weeks, …
Continue ReadingDesire and depression.
Sometimes, when women come into the center with low desire we talk to them about anti=depressants. The reaction isn’t always good: “You think I’m depressed? I’mhere to talk about my lack of sex drive!” Life situations and hormones can play a role in depression. Serotonin, the hormone normally associated with depression, isn’t the only culprit. …
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