A young patient at Maze Women’s Health is perplexed that the passion she had felt early in her marriage has cooled. What happened to the strolls under perfect skies and the rides to the stars? Psychologist Israel Charny sees “normal” marriage as a relationship intrinsically laden with conflict and considers husbands and wives to be each other’s “intimate enemies.” We have to compromise …
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The perpetual challenge of achieving work/life balance is an issue that is relevant to many. It comes up frequently here, not just in the stresses that bring people to treatment but even in the mere scheduling of appointments. I recently read a moving speech given by Kim Clark, former Dean of Harvard Business School, …
Continue ReadingLadies First
Televised dating games began in the 1960’s with the premier of “The Dating Game.” On that show, a man would select one woman from a panel of 3 choices hidden behind a screen, with whom to go on a date solely based on his interview questions. The same format was used for a woman choosing …
Continue ReadingLetting go of Resentment
When we think of addictions we often think of substance abuse or gambling problems. However, as a therapist I often see patients who seem to be “addicted” to resentment. They use it as a coping skill, much like alcoholics use alcohol to cope and not address the real issues at hand. We have all been …
Continue ReadingGO TO BED ANGRY!!
I read an interesting article that Terry Real wrote disputing the maxim of not going to bed angry. On a certain level, it makes sense to resolve a problem so that your mind can be free and clear to enjoy a hopefully good night’s sleep. However, there are many advances in brain science and we now …
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