Breakups Hurt

Relationship breakup is an issue that often comes up in my therapy sessions with patients.  Breakups—whether it be a brief courtship, a long dating relationship, a committed marriage—can bring on a mix of emotions that may fluctuate.  But somewhere, somehow, many of us have internalized this notion that life events should be experienced one emotion …

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Wireless relationships.

There’s information you can get from reading history books and then there’s the wisdom you can get from the people who have actually lived it. Dr. Shirley Zussman is 100 years old and has been counseling people for over half a century. She has witnessed tremendous shifts in cultural attitudes around sex and relationships and …

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Self-talk matters.

We have relationships with many different people in our lives; relationships with family members, relationships with friends, relationships with co-workers, relationships with neighbors, etc. A key difference in those relationships is the varying levels of frequency, intensity, and content of communication, and that can shape the level of closeness we feel towards others. But what’s …

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Why nice guys finish last.

I enjoyed reading this blog written by Steven Snyder, MD on the plight of being a nice guy. I often see women who say they want to date a “nice guy” and then I have seen these same women complain that their “nice guy” is annoying, a pushover, a momma’s boy…you get the point. Dr. …

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