Often times I’ll tell patients with children that they need to schedule specific times for sex. They will look at me quizzically, not quite getting what I am suggesting. “Good sex” in our society is so often synonymous with “spontaneous sex,” that to suggest scheduling sex, is almost like suggesting sex with your clothes on. …
Continue Reading“Great Sex” Does Not Just Happen, You Need To Plan
We talk a lot about sex at Maze, and as a center for women’s sexuality that makes sense. Many of our patients come to us reticent to talk about sex, but are relieved they have found a place where they can feel comfortable talking about sex and sexual issues. We discuss desire, orgasms, pain, etc., …
Continue ReadingIdealistic Sex vs Realistic Sex
In our center, we are often troubleshooting with patients when it comes to creating a sex life that feels sustainable on a regular, non-vacation basis. While each case is different and every relationship has its unique challenges, what often emerges from patients are idealistic notions about sex that may sound nice and appealing, but are …
Continue ReadingOn scheduling sex — when you have kids.
Often times I’ll tell patients with children that they need to schedule specific times for sex. They will look at me quizzically, not quite getting what I am suggesting. “Good sex” in our society is so often synonymous with “spontaneous sex,” that to suggest scheduling sex, is almost like suggesting sex with your clothes on. …
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