I used to have a difficult time understanding how a situation would occur where the woman felt she had been raped and the man felt that the sex had been consensual. (I am excluding situations in which one person is lying. I am addressing here those situations where both parties are acting as honest brokers …
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Imagine if you could tell someone how you really feel when they ask, “how are you?” Imagine if there wasn’t shame in having relationship challenges. Imagine if there was more normalizing in getting help. Imagine if you looked in the mirror and thought, hey, I’m good just the way I am. Imagine if people loved …
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Back in the day I laughed at Chris Farley’s character Stuart Smalley on SNL and his affirmation “Because I’m good enough. I’m smart enough. And doggone it, people like me”. I laughed, but I also learned. Affirmations are powerful and can help change our state of mind, our mood and give us a sense of …
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We are fortunate that there are so many therapeutic methods to choose from. One of my favorites is the practice of “therapeutic journal writing”. Writing things down can mitigate tension as writing about powerful emotions helps release the intensity of these feelings. It also helps clarify our thoughts and feelings and illuminates the issue we …
Continue ReadingHaters Gonna Love!
We have all heard the phrase “opposites attract”, but it’s been my experience that finding common ground and sharing core values makes for ultimate compatibility. Enter ‘Hater’, a new dating app where “you can meet someone who hates the same stuff”! The app was thought up by Brendan Alper after he read a 2006 study …
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