Author Esther Perel wrote the book, Mating in Captivity, in 2006. This is a great book for looking at the complicated relationship between long term monogamy and ongoing desire. Perel articulately explores how often our longing for stability and comfort can annihilate passion and desire. Perel furthered her research by traveling the world and asking …
Continue ReadingAre you done when he’s done?
It happened again today. A patient told me she was enjoying sex with her husband but that sometimes it was a little bit frustrating. When I asked her to explain she said “Well sometimes I don’t orgasm before he does or sometime I do orgasm before we have intercourse but then he has an orgasm …
Continue ReadingHow your birth control pills could be preventing pregnancy and your interest in sex!
I am seeing an increase of younger patients coming to our office complaining of low desire or having no interest in sex. Some of these patients are in their early 20’s. Yup…20’s. Hormone levels naturally begin to decline in your 30’s, so what is going on? Although it is difficult to isolate one major cause …
Continue ReadingMemo: Menopause does NOT have a monopoly on hormonal imbalance.
A few months ago, I met a nice woman who was coming to us for treatment for low desire. She had been feeling a decrease in her sexual interest over several years and brought it up at her yearly physical more than once. But when she asked her doctor if it could be hormone-related, she …
Continue ReadingThe difference between desire and arousal.
It happens every few days. A woman comes in and says that she has a problem with “my desire.” Then she goes on to say that she really wants to have sex, but she just doesn’t get turned on or it takes forever to get turned on, “so you see…” she sighs. “I have a …
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