Mirror, mirror on the wall.

Ever notice the facial expressions of little girls dressing up as princesses? Pure confidence. You won’t hear self-deprecating talk about whether they have the right figure to be a princess. Or if they need hair extensions to pull off the look. Or if they look royal despite missing a few teeth. What matters is that …

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Give the chubby guy a chance.

We were sitting with a patient yesterday. We love this patient. She’s funny, warm, smart and quite pretty. She, like so many of our patients, struggles mightily with her feelings of sexual inadequacy. “I don’t think I’m sexy enough.” “I don’t feel like I know enough.” “I’m just not pretty enough.” These are the kinds …

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Thinking sexy.

If you want sex to be a regular part of your life, you probably have to put a little work into it. Now don’t get all panicked that you don’t have time or energy to do one more thing. I know it’s hard enough to get to the gym regularly, shave your legs or blow …

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research=hope

Where there is research, there is hope. Under the category of “no, ladies, it’s NOT all in your head,” comes another study with a new drug that really seems to help with arousal problems and desire problems that arise from that. It’s a drug called Flibanserin and it works on Dopamine levels to make sex …

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Who’s hot and who’s not.

After nearly 9 years in practice there are some things I can say fairly absolutely. Here’s one: there is absolutely no correlation between looking sexy and being sexy! I can have a woman in my office who any guy would say “oh mg-d she looks soooooo hot…like she’s really into it.” (It may be her …

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