Book Recommendations

[Heather34]

Hi ladies. In thinking more about vaginismus aids and enjoying intercourse post-procedure, are there any books that you found particularly helpful to read? We’ve read a few of the recommended books from Dr. Pacik’s book and have found them helpful and also entertaining and fun to read. I would love any comments or ideas here ladies???

Recommended Readings:

Finding the Doorbell: Sexual Satisfaction for the Long Haul by Cindy Pierce and Edie Thys Morgan (Nomad Press, 2008). Meaningful and entertaining, this book shares other people’s intimate encounters and offers perspective on what is normal for the average healthy adult. The book, which dispels common false assumptions, such as that size alone matters and that great sex has to be wild, helps both partners overcome ordinary anxieties about sex, and paves the way for long-term sexual fulfillment.

The Book of Love: Every Couple’s Guide to Emotional and Sexual Intimacy by Laura Berman, PhD (DK Adult, 2010). Written by one of the country’s most renowned sex and relationship therapists, The Book of Love offers information on how you and your partner can become more connected, communicative, stable, romantic, and sexually-satisfied. The book also features photographs of couples of different ages and different body types.

The Guide to Getting It On, 6th Edition by Paul Joannides and Daerick Gross Sr. (Goofy Foot Press, 2009). This book has earned rave reviews for its entertaining and enlightening insights and instruction on sex. The Return of Desire: A Guide to Rediscovering Your Sexual Passion by Gina Ogden (Trumpeter, 2008). A seasoned sex therapist and researcher, Dr. Ogden offers a gentle and practical book on how to “Open up to the four energies that spark desire. Create heart-to-heart communication with your partner. Transcend guilt, shame, and ‘good-girls-don’t’ messages. Help heal the sexual wounds of abuse, addiction, affairs, and low self-esteem. And enjoy sexual pleasure throughout your life.”

[Heather34]

Hi ladies. In thinking more about vaginismus aids and enjoying intercourse post-procedure, are there any books that you found particularly helpful to read? We’ve read a few of the recommended books from Dr. Pacik’s book and have found them helpful and also entertaining and fun to read. I would love any comments or ideas here ladies???

Recommended Readings:

Finding the Doorbell: Sexual Satisfaction for the Long Haul by Cindy Pierce and Edie Thys Morgan (Nomad Press, 2008). Meaningful and entertaining, this book shares other people’s intimate encounters and offers perspective on what is normal for the average healthy adult. The book, which dispels common false assumptions, such as that size alone matters and that great sex has to be wild, helps both partners overcome ordinary anxieties about sex, and paves the way for long-term sexual fulfillment.

The Book of Love: Every Couple’s Guide to Emotional and Sexual Intimacy by Laura Berman, PhD (DK Adult, 2010). Written by one of the country’s most renowned sex and relationship therapists, The Book of Love offers information on how you and your partner can become more connected, communicative, stable, romantic, and sexually-satisfied. The book also features photographs of couples of different ages and different body types.

The Guide to Getting It On, 6th Edition by Paul Joannides and Daerick Gross Sr. (Goofy Foot Press, 2009). This book has earned rave reviews for its entertaining and enlightening insights and instruction on sex. The Return of Desire: A Guide to Rediscovering Your Sexual Passion by Gina Ogden (Trumpeter, 2008). A seasoned sex therapist and researcher, Dr. Ogden offers a gentle and practical book on how to “Open up to the four energies that spark desire. Create heart-to-heart communication with your partner. Transcend guilt, shame, and ‘good-girls-don’t’ messages. Help heal the sexual wounds of abuse, addiction, affairs, and low self-esteem. And enjoy sexual pleasure throughout your life.”

[Heather34]

In a prior post, Dr. Pacik wrote:

“I would urge all participants involved with the Forum to read Tammy Nelson’s new book The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity (Paperback, 2013) available on Amazon.com. http://www.amazon.com/New-Monogamy-Redefining-Relationship-Infidelity/dp/1608823156/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1371896561&sr=1-1&keywords=the+new+monogamy “

In a recent Blog, http://www.plasticsurgerypa.com/the-new-monogamy-redefining-your-relationship-after-infidelity-by-tammy-nelson/, he goes on to write:

“Once vaginismus patients have been treated with the Botox program, many go on to successful pain-free intercourse. Yet even in these successful patients, there may be considerable work that needs to be done dealing with feelings of self worth, continued fear and anxiety, and a feeling of loss of balance in the relationship. It takes time for the libido to recover and begin functioning more normally. It is well documented in my continued follow-up of my patients that relationships can begin to function more normally, but it often takes time and some effort. The exercises outlined by Tammy Nelson will make this process easier and less time consuming. The exercises can be fun in that you learn so much about your partner that you had no idea about. There may be recommendations that do not fit; this too is acceptable, and part of anyone’s filtering system.”

I welcome your comments and feedback here as well as further book recommendations.

[Heather34]

Here are a few more useful books recommendations that may help:

How to have an Orgasm… as often as you want, by Rachel Swift (published by Marlowe and Company)
Rekindling Desire by Barry and Emily McCarthy (published by Brunner-Routledge)
The New Joy of Sex by Alex Comfort and Susan Quilliam (published by Mitchell Beazley)
The Relate Guide to Sex in Loving Relationships, by Sarah Litvinoff (published by Vermilion)

What further books do you recommend to newly treated patients? Is there any one book or article in particular that helped you?

[Heather34]

Hi ladies. Some additional excellent reading recommendations post-procedure would be from Lou Paget. Combining fifteen years of sexuality research with her experience as a sex educator, Lou Paget is the author of the acclaimed sex guide for women How to be a Great Lover, and is the instructor and founder of the nationally recognized and wildly popular Sexuality Seminars. Lou has appeared in Cosmopolitan, Marie Claire, and Redbook. She lives in Los Angeles, California.

Here is a link to her various books available on Amazon:
http://www.amazon.com/Lou-Paget/e/B000OLTITO/ref=pd_sim_b_bl_3

Post-procedure, the one that my husband and I enjoyed the most is:
365 Days of Sensational Sex: Tantalizing Tips and Techniques to Keep the Fires Burning All Year Long

[Heather34]

Another good book that my hubby and I are currently reading and would recommend is: Getting the Sex You Want by Tammy Nelson.

http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=Getting%20the%20Sex%20you%20want%20by%20tammy%20nelson

[Heather34]

An additional book idea includes: Real Sex for Real Women by Dr. Laura Berman:

http://www.amazon.com/Real-Sex-Women-Laura-Berman/dp/0756659906

Review: “Showing how it’s possible to combine the reality of everyday life with fantastic sex, New York Times bestselling author and expert Dr. Laura puts sex at the top of the “to do” list, and takes the reader on a journey of self-discovery and pleasure-seeking to a life of sexual fulfillment.”

[Dr. Pacik]

Erotic Massage: Sensual Touch for Deep Pleasure and Extended Arousal
by Charla Hathaway http://www.amazon.com/Erotic-Massage-Sensual-Pleasure-Extended-ebook/dp/B004GHNP46/ref=sr_sp-btf_title_1_8?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1395616613&sr=1-8&keywords=erotic+massage paves a new pathway to erotic sensuality. Touch is key to health, intimacy and connection. Beautiful, sensual photography.

[Heather34]

New Book Recommendations from the Maze Women’s Sexual Health Page:

The Erotic Mind
By Jack Morin, 1995

This book is fairly theoretical and explores fantasies and “turn-ons,” why we have them, what role they play in our sexuality, and how to use them effectively in our own sex lives. For women who may feel guilty about their fantasy life or self-limit their fantasies, this is a must-read.

Fifty Shades of Grey
By E.L. James

It is hard to leave the house without hearing about Fifty Shades of Grey, and the sex scenes are hot! However, the story and the writing may not appeal to everyone. This book is not known for its imaginative plot but some may enjoy it just for sheer escapism and its inclusion of light BDSM. It can be a good introduction to those ideas if you have never thought about them.