Hi Arinum – I’m so sorry to hear about the problems you’ve been having in your marriage. But please don’t give up! I used to feel like you did but it’s completely possible to go from having vaginismus to having a completely normal sex life.
Sometimes vaginismus is severe enough that using dilators on your own is impossible. That was my experience and I ended up getting the botox treatment from Maze and they helped me to learn to dilate and then to do it on my own. There are also gynecologists and physical therapists who can either assist with dilating or help you further to relax your muscles to make dilating easier. There are all kinds of solutions, so I hope you’ll find a place to solicit help – your gynecologist is often a good person to start with. And please do ask questions here – so many of us are reluctant experts on this topic, so you’re far from alone. We can help you every step of the way!
