I need help

[emgb93]

Hello,
I have been on this healing journey for about a year now. I have been doing physical therapy for about 8 months until my insurance wouldn’t cover any more visits. I finally saw a specialist and he wanted me to continue physical therapy and see a sex therapist. I decided to see a therapist that specializes in pelvic floor pain. My issue is that I cannot buy into what she is recommending.

She has given me a lot of meditation and wants me to listen to bilateral stimulation music. She also is starting tapping therapy with me. I just cannot get myself to buy into meditation or any kind of therapy she is offering me. She told me it is very beneficial in healing the brain but how does that work when you cannot get your brain to focus on tasks she is giving you??

I am at and end and just want to do the Botox at this point because I feel it is my last hope.

Has anyone had success with listening to the bilateral stimulation music? Any success with meditation? Or tapping therapy? I just can’t see it and it’s $180 per hour to see her which is not sustainable.

I appreciate any help or advice.

[recessivegenequeen]

Hi emgb93 – welcome to the forums! Unfortunately I don’t have experience with tapping therapy or the type of meditation you describe, but I just wanted to swing in here and say that your treatment plan should work for YOU. If what she’s recommending isn’t giving you any results or relief, you’re entitled to seek other options if this doesn’t resonate with you. I’m not sure to what extent you’ve tried to make these options work, and I DO think it helps to keep an open mind sometimes when encountering a new solution to a problem you haven’t dealt with before, but if this isn’t working for you there are tons of other options out there. I got the botox treatment at the Maze clinic 6 or so years ago and had amazing results with it so can speak to the success of that, but I hope you’re able to find treatment you resonate with because you deserve that!

[emgb93]

Thank you for your response! I decided not to continue with the therapy as I didn’t feel it was working for me. I went ahead and got the botox treatment and things are already so much better. I just posted on the success forum but maybe you can help answer my question as well…

I got the botox treatment about two weeks ago and had piv sex around the two week mark (something we had never done previously). I used the 4th plastic dilator shortly before and then moved to the 5th which is 1.5 in in diameter and 6.25 inches in length. I had slight pain with initial insertion and then it slowly went away and just felt like pressure. My main problem was that I didn’t feel like I could get it in any further than 3/4 of the way. I tried to move around to different angles and push for it to go in further and it just wouldn’t budge.

When my husband and I had sex I also felt like it would not go all the way in no matter what position we tried. Did anyone else feel this way? Should it go all the way in? Are there any other positions you can recommend to try that might feel better / be more successful?

[recessivegenequeen]

Hi emgb93 – great to hear from you, and congrats on making progress so far with the benefit of botox, that is amazing news!

So this is a fact that should probably be better known, but the vaginal canal isn’t that long – only about 5 inches when a woman is aroused. Depending on the size of your husband’s penis, it’s likely impossible to get it “all the way in” if it’s longer than 5 inches, and this is super normal. Same with your dilator that’s 6.25 inches long – that’s why it only goes 3/4 of the way in. If you google “length of vaginal canal” you can learn a lot more about this, but it’s super normal!

[sandradevi]

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[recessivegenequeen]

Hi emgb93 – great to hear from you, and congrats on making progress so far with the benefit of botox, that is amazing news!

So this is a fact that should probably be better known, but the vaginal canal isn’t that long – only about 5 inches when a woman is aroused. Depending on the size of your husband’s penis, it’s likely impossible to get it “all the way in” if it’s longer than 5 inches, and this is super normal. Same with your dilator that’s 6.25 inches long – that’s why it only goes 3/4 of the way in. You can learn more about this topic here:
https://www.healthline.com/health/womens-health/how-deep-is-a-vagina#arousal

[sandradevi]

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