hi Kaygurl,
Is the discomfort you described with intercourse only or all sexual activity?
It does sound like you may benefit from doing some dilation. We usually recommend what we call ‘maintenance dilation’ (using a dilator or internal vibrator) about three times/week. Also intercourse does count as ‘dilation’ but we would only recommend that if you are having pain-free intercourse.
Also, are you taking the birth control pill or using the ring?
There are several factors that could possibly be contributing to your discomfort. I recommend seeing a provider you trust as a starting point. Please do keep us posted!