Hi all — thanks for your bravery in sharing your stories. They’ve really helped me solve a lot of issues of my own in getting through vaginismus.
It became apparent to me when I got married that I have vaginismus. I have been pretty successful with dilators and my husband and I finally had penetrative sex this week (very proud of myself!). However, I’ve been ignoring another issue in favor of treating vaginismus. I’m not expecting to feel pleasure from intercourse any time soon. I know this will take time and, further, that most women feel more pleasure from their vulva area and specifically their clitoris. I feel nothing in that area when my husband tries anything there. It’s not numb, it just produces zero pleasure, and is occasionally irritating. This has not always been my experience on my own, but I have struggled to produce any feeling there myself since I got married. There have been a couple of flashes of positive feeling, but very few and far between. Is this vaginismus related? Can I expect to start feeling something now that we can have intercourse? I have tried sex therapy and it didn’t help.
Thanks — appreciate any advice!