Once I realized I had to start practicing with the dilation set I got from my pelvic floor therapist, the first challenge I had to deal with (besides my vaginismus of course) was: how? when? where? My therapist told me doing the exercises with my partner was allowed, but she didn’t recommend it. So I did them on my own.
I’m not sure about you, but it was actually not that easy to find out how I was going to do the exercises. I lived together with my husband and worked during the day, so I had to find a moment to have some privacy, without having the idea my husband could be knocking on the door of our bedroom at any time. Plus we were living in a small apartment, which already made things awkward before I even started.
The way I did it was to put on the heating in our bedroom each evening as high as possible, followed by a nice relaxing, hot bath. I did my exercises after I dried myself off in our bedroom, and my husband promised he wouldn’t disturb me during that time. I think it took me several months before I was able to lay down ON the sheets instead of UNDER them, cause I was still afraid my husband would walk in on me and saw me doing things I didn’t want him to see.
How did others do this?
