Hi Vic123! Congratulations on your decision to purchase dilators–it’s a big step, and it’s also really impressive that you have been pursuing a treatment on your own. I don’t think I could have done it without the women at the Maze clinic, so I know you must be brave and tough!
I have used the silicon pure romance dilator set and highly recommend them. I think texturally they’re nice because there’s a very slight flexibility to them, which to me feels more forgiving and “realistic,” if that makes sense. I have used a hard plastic dilator as well as a filler size between two sizes I was having trouble with at the time, and I personally found the hard plastic one much harder to work with. Thus, my vote is for Pure Romance!
Also, since I’ve seen a couple of your posts around the forums and read what you wrote above, I wanted to add that the most important thing about dilating is to do it every day. Even if it’s just for 5-10 minutes, that’s still so much better than not doing it at all or doing it infrequently every few days. Treating vaginismus is basically exercising your vagina–you are stretching the muscles and sticking to a routine so that you can get better and better over time. Results don’t happen overnight, they happen over time.
Let us know how it goes with the dilators! We are rooting for you, and so many of us have been where you are. I know how hard it is, and I can promise you that breaking through the fear and the pain is worth it!
