Speaking to one of Dr. Paciks treated patients pre-procedure

[Heather34]

Hi ladies. Dr. Pacik’s Botox treatment program for vaginismus is unique in so many different ways. For me personally, it changed my life and was the answer to end several years of suffering with vaginismus in silence. One of the unique parts of this treatment program is you have the ability to speak to a treated patient prior to your own treatment. This connection is invaluable and allows you to speak to another woman who has had the same condition of vaginismus in the past. For so long, I truly believed I was the only woman in the world with this condition and knowing that there were others out there with it helped to make me feel less isolated. In addition, you can ask this person every single question that you may have about the procedure or anything at all as they have been in your shoes. It is truly a wonderful way to calm your nerves pre-procedure and also produces lasting friendships. If Dr. Pacik asks you if you would like to speak to a patient who has been treated, I would highly recommend it.

Further forum comments about the importance of speaking to a treated patient pre-procedure include:
“Last week a woman from this forum emailed me and asked if I would like to speak with her via telephone and that she would answer any questions I had. I of course told her yes that would be great! I spoke with her last night for about 45 minutes. She answered all of my questions and gave me great advice. When I got off the phone with her I found myself in a puddle of tears. 🙂 Its one thing to communicate on this forum, but for the first time I heard the voice of a woman who has been through the exact struggle and heart ache as me. It may seem silly, but it just really impacted me.”

If you spoke to one of Dr. Pacik’s treated patients pre-procedure, how did it help you? Would you also recommend it to future patients?

[lotus1000]

Dr. Pacik connected me with somebody who is very culturally similar from me (from a very traditional culture and background). We were able to comment and share about how difficult it has been, particularly given that in our culture, we don’t speak about sex or sexual difficulties openly. In general, it has been such a relief to know that other women have been in my shoes and have overcome vaginismus; however, it was especially relieving to hear that somebody who was especially like me – background, religion and family structure – was able to overcome it. It gave me even more hope than I had before!

[vgfears]

I was offered but then i foundout the previous patient
either did nit respond back or doesn’t want to( not sure maybe
info is not positive about me so she may be hesitant???)

Sure would like an advocate or someone to put up
with me if I do decide to get the procedure.

Would I be worth it since I have no mate& am already
postmenopausal? Would it be a waste of time, energy, etc on
everyone’s part?

Is it really worth it?

[vgfears]

Sure would like an advocate or someone to put up
with me if I do decide to get the procedure.

[Janet Pacik]

vgfears — Dr. Pacik has spent a considerable amount of time speaking to you and has tried to help you through some of your issues. Our moderators have also tried to give you positive reinforcement regardless of whether or not you have the Botox treatment program. I would like to suggest that you might consider seeking couseling on a one-on-one basis with a professional to try to work out some of your issues. It would be important for you to work out these issues before coming for treatment as they may get in your way of moving in a positive direction.

[kelseroo]

I have thought about how I would really love to speak to a woman who has vaginismus and is the same religion as me, but I didn’t want to post publicly on the forum about religion. Not sure if that would be appropriate…

[Heather34]

Hi Kelseroo. I think that communicating with others who either currently have or have had vaginismus is an excellent way to reduce anxiety. As you said in your post concerning the film, “I think one thing that is hard for people to understand is the emotional toll that this condition takes on a woman and her partner.” I felt like it took a huge toll on my relationship during the time that I had it as I experienced both depression as well as anxiety (worry about finding a cure, if it would work, our future together, etc.) and this would often make him upset because he wanted to see me happy and not sad/worried as I always was. It was a very difficult thing to go through and, at the time, we were the only two who knew of it. I wanted to share an excellent thread started by one of the other moderators, Allie.

Build Each Other Up
http://www.vaginismusmd.com/vaginismus-md-forum/?mingleforumaction=viewtopic&t=275

“So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing.” 1 Thessalonians 5:11

[Becca]

It would have been really cool to talk to someone one on one that had been through the procedure before I had it done. It is one thing to read all of these forums beforehand and it is a totally other thing when you get there and are experiencing it for yourself. There could definitely be a lot to be gained by talking with a previously treated patient. 😉 I know what you mean Kelseroo about wanting to talk with someone of your same faith. I know for me this whole journey has been so confusing and emotional trying to understand why God would allow this in my life and people that don’t have that same belief that I do in God may not wrestle with those same feelings. I feel like it should be okay to talk about the religious aspect on these forums as long as it’s done respectfully.

[Dr. Pacik]

We have women from many walks of life and from many different cultures and religions throughout the world. Since I work closely with my patients and also women who have simply inquired, I have gotten to know them well enough to make recommendations for a “good fit” for a conversation. The Forum is also an excellent way to reach out and I agree there should be no boundaries as long as the communication is in good taste as noted by Becca.