Hi all. In an excellent Blog, Dr. BatSheva discussed the unconsummated marriage/relationship. Specifically, she wrote:
“Here is the most important thing to remember: NO ONE NEEDS TO LIVE WITH AN UNCONSUMMATED RELATIONSHIP. EVERYONE CAN BE HELPED!
Really and truly. I promise you.
So if you are sitting there thinking “I am the worst case ever. I can’t possibly do this, ” I’m here to let you know that it just isn’t so. And now you are probably shaking your head saying “But you haven’t met ME and you can’t imagine how bad my case it.” Oh yes I can. “No, really,” you’re saying. “My gynecologist made it clear to me (by their looks and impatience?) that I am like the most hopeless case ever” or you’re saying “ You don’t know ME. I am really nuts. I can’t let anyone touch my thighs without hyperventilating or shaking.” Yes…I do know you. We see someone like you every single day here at the Center.
We won’t scream at you. We won’t make you feel guilty. We won’t shame you. And we never, ever make you feel like a freak. Because you’re not. Because every day there are hundreds and thousands of women walking around with the same issue. Just no one talks about it. So when you come in to see us for the first appointment, all we will ever think, is that we know how incredibly scary this is for you…and you? You are incredibly brave!”
Please, if you are reading this right now, know that there is a caring group out there who actually understand about the condition of vaginismus and want to help you to overcome!!!